Nov. 29, 2003: Back in the saddle
My revised Match profile is ready to go. I've had some second thoughts, though, because while quickly browsing there yesterday, I found some guys I want to write, and some of them wrote fairly comprehensive profiles. What if my plans backfire, and, in a cruel twist of fate, they're turned off by my sparse profile? I am very hesitant, but I'm going to show some resolve for once and forge ahead with my original plan.
One of the Yahoo guys, joepro, replied. His real name is Joe, too, which is good since I captioned my email to him with "Hey, Joe—What do you know?" Clever, I know. He's 36, 6'1", divorced with kids at home part-time. In fact, his text says "I'm a single parent so I don't get out much." He's goateed and doesn't mention sports as an interest; he does mention religion/spirituality. Hmm …why did I write him again? Oh, yeah, it was because:
"Otherwise, I am a blast to hang out with. I enjoy just about anything cultural or just sitting around drinking and talking with friends. I enjoy intelligent conversation and acting like a goof. I am looking for just about anything, a good phone conversation, a nice dinner, a wild weekend, a long-term relationship. I love to meet new people. I love finding new places to eat, going to the theatre, museums, bike riding or hiking. I am honest ,respectful and very funny."
In his email, he, like so many, seized on my job history—he said quitting a job sounds like something he would do, and, coincidentally, he's a freelancer, too. So I guess I could consider this networking then. He included his real email address—"let's try to get to know each other." I'll write later this afternoon.
No other responses in Yahoo, including from Greg. Again, though, he is visiting family over a holiday weekend. You can't blame a guy for not getting online. Plus, after our last charade, I'm not expecting much on this go-round.
EH found another match—Nestor, 37, from Chicago—and he has already requested communication. Nestor is 5'11", Latino/Hispanic, and works in the construction/electrician category. Being the judgmental snob I am, I immediately wonder about his intelligence level. I disgust myself sometimes. He's made his photos visible at this early stage, which I prefer—shows some confidence. One of the photos was taken on a cruise, but he's too far from the camera to get a good look. Another appears to be from a wedding, and he looks cute. Geez—in reading his profile, under the most important thing he's looking for in a woman, he includes "wants children." And one of his best life-skills is "raising and/or caring for children." He goes on to mention two additional times that he wants children. He also doesn't drink and sprinkles quite a few misspellings throughout his answers, so just as well, but his request for communication almost angers me. I can only assume that he didn't bother reading my profile, and it's not like it takes very long. I mean, if he wants children so desperately, why would he request communication when I'm upfront about my position on motherhood? Argh.
On a better note, another reply came in from one of the Yahoo guys—trezheureux, or Stuart. Unfortunately, he says he's heading out of town for work for three weeks or so and fears he will have limited computer access during that time. He hopes that "we might have the occasion to speak again soon." Not that we've actually spoken, but okay. Maybe I'll drop him a line saying he can send me an email when he returns. Maybe I won't. He's the tea-loving, aikido enthusiast.
An Emode Icebreaker came in last night. Redcskins lives in Richton Park (never heard of it) and wants kids. He writes in his profile that he's a very emotional person and "can have very high highs and low lows." I believe that's called manic depression. No thank you.
***
I wrote to talljungguy (he's 6'7"!) in Match. He obviously spent some time on his profile, particularly his "About Me":
"OUTSIDE: Lucky for me, I inherited some of my parent's charm. Very chatty, sometimes flamboyant. I like to talk seriously and to talk trash at the same time. My friend's parents love me, as do their chidren. At work, I teach graduate students and write research papers, love both. My wise and beautiful nine-year-old daughter lives out of state, so I see her less than I would like. Extrovert, but need plenty of down time. MIND: Lately I've been reading about evolutionary biology and 'men's issues'. There are lots of excellent books on the first subject, and lots of lousy ones on the second. I enjoy the New York Review of Books and the New Yorker, although I end up throwing half of them out -- too much to read! Hate Ashcroft; love the theater. BODY: I love cooking and the comforts of the home -- enjoy experimenting with food. Have discovered, to my chagrin, that disconnected sex does not work for me. Cycle a lot, but don't work out as much as I should -- reasonably fit, but no muscle man me. The pictures posted are not great, but you get the idea. Extremely tall and seeking someone that does not need a ladder to look me in the eyes. SOUL: I've worked through the midlife issues and am comfortable with myself. Deeply moral, in the general sense of the word; definitely immoral in the narrower sense. Intuitive. Happy and well-adjusted, but with plenty of darkness and edge. Need both yin for my yang and yang for my yin."
Nervous about what he might think of my scanty revised profile, I rambled a bit in my email:
"For now, I shall call you Karl (as in Jung). I really like your profile--I appreciate it when a guy puts some thought into the 'About Me.' And I know what you mean about the New Yorker--I just got back from Hawaii and was chagrined to find two copies waiting for me--how to keep up? I do love magazines, though, and find it difficult to watch TV without a mag or newspaper, although the New Yorker requires a little too much focus for TV watching.
But I digress ... Anyhoo, I get the sense from your profile that we've got a quite a bit in common. I think I'm kind of a renaissance woman, and you sound like a renaissance man. I've got plenty of friends for sports (including three friends with whom I've got Cubs partial-season tickets), but would love to find someone to indulge my interests in theater, cooking, and, dare I say, connected sex.
Take a look at my profile and see what you think (and do note my height). Unfortunately, I just finished paring it down--I had a more comprehensive version up, but thought I'd see if a more bare-bones approach would work better (my marketing background rears its ugly head). Please feel free to ask me to fill in any missing info--that can be part of the fun.
Take care,
Barb"
Ugh. Reading it over, I don't really like my message. It sounds incoherent and pretentious at the same time. Well, can't do anything about it now.
I also wrote to a tax lawyer/triathlete in Match:
"Hi there--Just came across your profile and thought I'd touch base.
It seems like we've got some things in common and might hit it off. I'm fairly driven, so much so that I quit my job three years ago because I was miserable and thought I should take action; I've never regretted it. I enjoy both sports and arts, and try to avoid religious and right wing zealots. Oh--and I know more about tax law than I ever expected to because I write client newsletters for CPAs, among other things (I'm actually an attorney, too, but I've never practiced).
Check out my profile and see what you think.
Take care,
Barb"
My caption was "Tax law? We'll be able to talk for hours." Maybe I shouldn't be doing this when I'm so tired.
Random search notes: One guy in Yahoo has no less than four shirtless photos posted, along with one in a tux. The shirtless photos are clearly posed. I've seen this guy's profile repeatedly (in Match, too, I think), so I know two of the shirtless photos are new, and one fully-clothed photo has been deleted. What does this say about Tmisk?
One of the Yahoo guys, joepro, replied. His real name is Joe, too, which is good since I captioned my email to him with "Hey, Joe—What do you know?" Clever, I know. He's 36, 6'1", divorced with kids at home part-time. In fact, his text says "I'm a single parent so I don't get out much." He's goateed and doesn't mention sports as an interest; he does mention religion/spirituality. Hmm …why did I write him again? Oh, yeah, it was because:
"Otherwise, I am a blast to hang out with. I enjoy just about anything cultural or just sitting around drinking and talking with friends. I enjoy intelligent conversation and acting like a goof. I am looking for just about anything, a good phone conversation, a nice dinner, a wild weekend, a long-term relationship. I love to meet new people. I love finding new places to eat, going to the theatre, museums, bike riding or hiking. I am honest ,respectful and very funny."
In his email, he, like so many, seized on my job history—he said quitting a job sounds like something he would do, and, coincidentally, he's a freelancer, too. So I guess I could consider this networking then. He included his real email address—"let's try to get to know each other." I'll write later this afternoon.
No other responses in Yahoo, including from Greg. Again, though, he is visiting family over a holiday weekend. You can't blame a guy for not getting online. Plus, after our last charade, I'm not expecting much on this go-round.
EH found another match—Nestor, 37, from Chicago—and he has already requested communication. Nestor is 5'11", Latino/Hispanic, and works in the construction/electrician category. Being the judgmental snob I am, I immediately wonder about his intelligence level. I disgust myself sometimes. He's made his photos visible at this early stage, which I prefer—shows some confidence. One of the photos was taken on a cruise, but he's too far from the camera to get a good look. Another appears to be from a wedding, and he looks cute. Geez—in reading his profile, under the most important thing he's looking for in a woman, he includes "wants children." And one of his best life-skills is "raising and/or caring for children." He goes on to mention two additional times that he wants children. He also doesn't drink and sprinkles quite a few misspellings throughout his answers, so just as well, but his request for communication almost angers me. I can only assume that he didn't bother reading my profile, and it's not like it takes very long. I mean, if he wants children so desperately, why would he request communication when I'm upfront about my position on motherhood? Argh.
On a better note, another reply came in from one of the Yahoo guys—trezheureux, or Stuart. Unfortunately, he says he's heading out of town for work for three weeks or so and fears he will have limited computer access during that time. He hopes that "we might have the occasion to speak again soon." Not that we've actually spoken, but okay. Maybe I'll drop him a line saying he can send me an email when he returns. Maybe I won't. He's the tea-loving, aikido enthusiast.
An Emode Icebreaker came in last night. Redcskins lives in Richton Park (never heard of it) and wants kids. He writes in his profile that he's a very emotional person and "can have very high highs and low lows." I believe that's called manic depression. No thank you.
***
I wrote to talljungguy (he's 6'7"!) in Match. He obviously spent some time on his profile, particularly his "About Me":
"OUTSIDE: Lucky for me, I inherited some of my parent's charm. Very chatty, sometimes flamboyant. I like to talk seriously and to talk trash at the same time. My friend's parents love me, as do their chidren. At work, I teach graduate students and write research papers, love both. My wise and beautiful nine-year-old daughter lives out of state, so I see her less than I would like. Extrovert, but need plenty of down time. MIND: Lately I've been reading about evolutionary biology and 'men's issues'. There are lots of excellent books on the first subject, and lots of lousy ones on the second. I enjoy the New York Review of Books and the New Yorker, although I end up throwing half of them out -- too much to read! Hate Ashcroft; love the theater. BODY: I love cooking and the comforts of the home -- enjoy experimenting with food. Have discovered, to my chagrin, that disconnected sex does not work for me. Cycle a lot, but don't work out as much as I should -- reasonably fit, but no muscle man me. The pictures posted are not great, but you get the idea. Extremely tall and seeking someone that does not need a ladder to look me in the eyes. SOUL: I've worked through the midlife issues and am comfortable with myself. Deeply moral, in the general sense of the word; definitely immoral in the narrower sense. Intuitive. Happy and well-adjusted, but with plenty of darkness and edge. Need both yin for my yang and yang for my yin."
Nervous about what he might think of my scanty revised profile, I rambled a bit in my email:
"For now, I shall call you Karl (as in Jung). I really like your profile--I appreciate it when a guy puts some thought into the 'About Me.' And I know what you mean about the New Yorker--I just got back from Hawaii and was chagrined to find two copies waiting for me--how to keep up? I do love magazines, though, and find it difficult to watch TV without a mag or newspaper, although the New Yorker requires a little too much focus for TV watching.
But I digress ... Anyhoo, I get the sense from your profile that we've got a quite a bit in common. I think I'm kind of a renaissance woman, and you sound like a renaissance man. I've got plenty of friends for sports (including three friends with whom I've got Cubs partial-season tickets), but would love to find someone to indulge my interests in theater, cooking, and, dare I say, connected sex.
Take a look at my profile and see what you think (and do note my height). Unfortunately, I just finished paring it down--I had a more comprehensive version up, but thought I'd see if a more bare-bones approach would work better (my marketing background rears its ugly head). Please feel free to ask me to fill in any missing info--that can be part of the fun.
Take care,
Barb"
Ugh. Reading it over, I don't really like my message. It sounds incoherent and pretentious at the same time. Well, can't do anything about it now.
I also wrote to a tax lawyer/triathlete in Match:
"Hi there--Just came across your profile and thought I'd touch base.
It seems like we've got some things in common and might hit it off. I'm fairly driven, so much so that I quit my job three years ago because I was miserable and thought I should take action; I've never regretted it. I enjoy both sports and arts, and try to avoid religious and right wing zealots. Oh--and I know more about tax law than I ever expected to because I write client newsletters for CPAs, among other things (I'm actually an attorney, too, but I've never practiced).
Check out my profile and see what you think.
Take care,
Barb"
My caption was "Tax law? We'll be able to talk for hours." Maybe I shouldn't be doing this when I'm so tired.
Random search notes: One guy in Yahoo has no less than four shirtless photos posted, along with one in a tux. The shirtless photos are clearly posed. I've seen this guy's profile repeatedly (in Match, too, I think), so I know two of the shirtless photos are new, and one fully-clothed photo has been deleted. What does this say about Tmisk?
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