Dec. 14, 2003: Details, details
I have an email from a Match fella this morning, cpht123 (Alan). His profile snippet and email look good—38, 6'0", lives in the city, active lifestyle, goal-oriented—but I've never seen him in any of my searches, so something must be off, "criteria-wise." I'm going to guess he wants kids. Nope—he checks "not sure." Maybe he's just new. He's conservative, with very short salt and pepper hair; his headline reads "Smooth as my head!" Does that mean it's shaved? Well, I'll write him back this afternoon. It's always nice when the guy makes the first email move, especially when he's a viable candidate. Geez, "viable candidate"—so romantic.
Both of the emails I received this weekend referred to how active I seem to be. So should I revise my Match profile to downplay that aspect of myself? I think it's possible prospects find that overwhelming—maybe they don't want to be that active. On the one hand, I am indeed active, so downplaying it would be misleading, and why start something with someone based on false representations? I'm unlikely to suddenly become inactive to accommodate a guy's idea of the kind of woman he wants. If a guy wouldn't be interested in an active woman, downplaying my activity level early on will only prove detrimental to both of us eventually. On the other hand, I lead a fairly active lifestyle now, without an active partner, so there's no reason I couldn't maintain an active lifestyle apart from a boyfriend. God knows I'm not looking for a running partner. I guess, ideally, I'd like someone with the same activity level, but it's not a deal-breaker.
OK—I'll tackle the issue from a different angle this time around. Instead of changing the "About Me" or some of the sections describing my interests, I'm adding to "About My Match": "We don't need to have identical interests--I'm open to just about any kind of pastime, from arts to cooking to reading to sports, and I like to keep my interests constantly expanding." Flexible, aren't I? Who could say no? Besides the 2,800 or so (in Match alone!) who already have, that is.
Both of the emails I received this weekend referred to how active I seem to be. So should I revise my Match profile to downplay that aspect of myself? I think it's possible prospects find that overwhelming—maybe they don't want to be that active. On the one hand, I am indeed active, so downplaying it would be misleading, and why start something with someone based on false representations? I'm unlikely to suddenly become inactive to accommodate a guy's idea of the kind of woman he wants. If a guy wouldn't be interested in an active woman, downplaying my activity level early on will only prove detrimental to both of us eventually. On the other hand, I lead a fairly active lifestyle now, without an active partner, so there's no reason I couldn't maintain an active lifestyle apart from a boyfriend. God knows I'm not looking for a running partner. I guess, ideally, I'd like someone with the same activity level, but it's not a deal-breaker.
OK—I'll tackle the issue from a different angle this time around. Instead of changing the "About Me" or some of the sections describing my interests, I'm adding to "About My Match": "We don't need to have identical interests--I'm open to just about any kind of pastime, from arts to cooking to reading to sports, and I like to keep my interests constantly expanding." Flexible, aren't I? Who could say no? Besides the 2,800 or so (in Match alone!) who already have, that is.
posted by Bemused @ 8:26 AM
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