tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10971908.post-1117031847408829492005-05-25T09:04:00.000-05:002005-05-25T09:37:27.450-05:00It'd be so easy to email Mike today, with references to the Bears/Packers game and, of course, thanking him for the drinks on Saturday night, but I won't. If he's interested, he knows how to contact me. I think I'll take the same approach with Joe. I expressed my interest in meeting; he can follow up if he feels the same way.<br /> <br />Actually, though, last night I gave some thought to Joe's profile. He wrote that he's looking for anything from a good phone call to a wild weekend to a long-term relationship. While I'm ultimately seeking the LTR (am I really? and, if so, am I looking of my own volition?), a wild weekend sounds awfully good. I could use that, so I'm considering proposing it to him. If he contacts me, that is—I do want to wait and see if he reaches out. I feel like I need a refresher course in how to be physical with someone (I wonder if Discovery Center offers any courses on that), and this could do the trick.<br /><br />I don't hesitate to be the aggressor with someone with whom I'm already in a relationship, but I'm downright wimpy about it with someone who's merely a date. I've demonstrated time and time again that I can read a guy's level of interest in me about as well I read Braille. How devastating would it be to misread a guy's interest, make a move, and be shot down? No thanks.<br />***<br />Tim never called about dinner tonight. I don't especially care—I'm ambivalent about meeting him and have been all along, and I'm happy to spend the night at home. The rudeness continues to amaze me, though. Do people think that meeting via the Internet means expectations of manners and decency are discarded? I suspect the lack of civility perpetuates itself, too—"it's been done to me, so I'll do it to others."<br /> <br />I do have three more emails from over the weekend. From Match, imafreespirit writes to point out that we have similar interests. And are both tall. He's 27, though, and lives in Charleston, Illinois, a berg I don't know. He also wants two kids.<br /><br />Traveltoomuch (Curtis) wrote again in Yahoo. Not much to it—just some travel talk and mentioning that he's currently working too many hours to check the Web site often. Uh, why sign up then? Anyway, I replied with some travel talk of my own, then tried to steer the conversation into a more personal vein, asking where he had relocated from, why, and how he likes Chicago. I predict a dragged-out, superficial exchange and no eventual meeting.<br /> <br />I won't suggest meeting, though. I'm shying away from the early meetings for a while. If you haven't emailed a bit or spoken on the phone, it makes it too difficult to find good topics of conversation at an audition. The audition becomes an interview—where are you from, where did you go to school, how many siblings, etc. And that leads to boredom, which isn't likely to produce a strong desire to meet again, let alone that elusive spark. Better to get the background information out of the way before you even meet.<br /> <br />The other email in Yahoo came from owingsruleo. He's a 5'9" flight attendant, with what looks like a large dirt stain under his bottom lip. He asks what I'm looking for in a man, despite the fact I spell it out pretty explicitly in my profile. Not that it matters—I'm keeping a wide berth of metrosexuals for a while.<br /> <br />Two Yahoo Icebreakers. One is from a conservative 45-year-old suburbanite who doesn't drink and looks to be about two-thirds of my weight. The other guy is 5'9", 43, and wearing a wife-beater shirt in his photo (below his goatee). He lives with roommates and signs off his profile with "Chow!" Not a bad idea. Think I'll start dinner.Bemusednoreply@blogger.com