tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10971908.post-1118328023585445012005-06-09T09:24:00.000-05:002005-06-10T09:56:05.956-05:00Well, back on the hamster wheel today. I have an email from Tim, sent late last night. He sent his personal email address and asked if I'd like to meet for a beer or coffee soon. Sure—let's get the one-and-out out of the way. I'll try to be more positive in my response. I think I'll forward him a photo someone sent me of the infamous interfering Cub fan hiding in Saddam's spider hole.<br /><br />EH sent another match—Christopher, 39, from Chicago Ridge— and he's already requested communication. He's 6'4", a senior information consultant, and looks pleasant in his photo. A few extra pounds, as Match would say, but that's not a problem. He likes Trivial Pursuit (which I love) and to learn new things and is currently in grad school. He can't live without family, friends, playing, learning, and chocolate. My kind of guy. I bet he wants kids, though. When a guy mentions family several times, particularly nieces and nephews, that tells me something.<br /><br />I answered his five questions. He asked about chemistry, jealousy levels, verbal intimacy skills, and my ideas about adventure and a romantic time. I sent him my standard five questions, including the all-important "If you were to marry, how many children would be ideal?"<br />***<br />Two new emails in Yahoo this afternoon. Steve_norway2000 is indeed Norwegian—my second foreign guy in as many days (this one can't spell "good"; he uses "god" instead, which makes for some amusingly unintended wordplay). He assures me he spends half his time in Chicago and is moving here in 12 months. Don't do it for me, Steve. He's 47, with three kids, the oldest aged 20. As for the rest of his message, I don't think I could do it justice, so let me quote:<br /><br />"Technically I am married but on the way to a divorce. Why you might ask? Well have been married for over 25 years, a very happy marriage, but we have grown apart, regretfully. I know that it is now time part.<br /><br />I am a very romantically man, I like courting, I like to spoil a woman that likes the effort. I want to be in a relationship where a man is a man and a woman is a woman. I want to seduce and to be seduced. I want to serve and to be served. I want to spoil and to be spoiled. I want to have intelligent discussions about life in general and pleasing in particular. I want to enrich and to be enriched. I want to be equal, yet above and below at the same time. I want to feel small and big at the same time.<br /><br />I believe that a relationship requires constant work and a big portion of forgiveness. I believe that a partners reasonability is to support, cheer and don’t ask questions like why, just acceptance. I think that a god partner is a god listener.<br /><br />I believe that romance and love is created between brains. I believe sex is a very important part of a relationship, but not, by far, the only part. I believe by satisfying ones partner one egoistically reaches the highest levels of pleasures. I am a trysexual, I try almost everything at least ones, and it is only through experience ones knows.<br /><br />The best ingredients for a god life are romance, humor, talks and understanding. A financial secure situation helps; crying in a Jaguar is easier than crying on a bus.<br /><br />I am 6´3”, 220 lbs (too much of the god life), blue eyes, blonde (wish I had some more hair).<br />If you have the same views in life and about life, please write and tell me more about your dreams in life, I want to know more.<br />Best hugs<br />Steve"<br /><br />A trysexual? That's a new one. Could that have anything to do with the end of your marriage, perhaps? Or was that because of your wife's failure to just accept, instead of asking why? I'm going to pass on this rare opportunity to have intelligent discussions about pleasing. I'd rather be pleased than talk about it, intelligently or any other way.<br /><br />The other Yahoo email is from edatriverealm. He's 44 and lives way out in Mokena. With roommates. He wrote only:<br /><br />"I admire what you did, took guts. Admire people who take calculated risks. Ed"<br /><br />A man of few words, Ed is.<br /><br />Over in MM, BEATLEBOY836 asks if I'm singing karaoke in my photo, and goes on to write:<br /><br />"I'm going to be getting my fill of that crap this Winter: I'm going to Singapore for three months, where kareoke is the national pastime!"<br /><br />That's a shame. I think we would have had a beautiful future, despite the fact that he's 46-50, 5'9"-5'10", drinks daily, and writes, no joke, that he speaks the language of love. I think his username is based on his resemblance to a bloated Paul McCartney, with the heavily moussed hair of an '80s pop singer.<br /><br />BIGBRAD339 comes with a Matchmarker and four stars on the Matchmeter. His email, which he sent twice, wasn't very impressive, though:<br /><br />"I liked your profile and I thought I would say hi. I like tall women and you certainly are that. It is really hard to find someone so tall who is also attractive. Well if your interested, let me know.<br />Brad"<br /><br />He doesn't post a photo, and nothing in his profile grabs me. Delete.<br /><br />I still have the email from Geoff in my MM mailbox. He doesn't have a photo, but I was thinking about writing anyway. He comes off as potentially negative in his profile, though. Oh, well—can't hurt to drop a quick line. He didn't exactly give me much to work with in his two-sentence email. I think I'll ask if he has a photo available.<br /><br />Alan from Match has returned from his business trip and wrote that he'll call me tonight. Right now, I'm not really in the mood for that, but we'll see. He may not even call, so no use fretting over it now.<br />***<br />Geoff responded to my email but ignored my request for a photo. He also thinks he "sort of" knows me, saying that we emailed a few years back. He's wrong, though—I'd remember the name Geoff, plus he said I was working for Ameritech at the time. Nope. He wants to move to chatting already, but I don't like his lack of a response to my photo inquiry. I'm just going to reply that he's mistaking me for someone else and leave it at that.<br /><br />CUDDLEBEAR sends me a new MM email, beginning with "You probably wish you weren't so tall … It seems like every woman no matter how attractive will find something about her body she doesn't like." Sweeping generalizations are such a turnon, CUDDLEBEAR. He goes on to say he wouldn't normally be interested in someone my age who's never been married, but I've obviously committed myself to my education and career. Thanks for the dispensation. That means a lot, especially from a twice-divorced house painter. He also describes himself as very good looking, which contradicts his Larry Bird lookalike photo (his other four photos are from his childhood), claims to be well endowed, says he speaks "pillow talk," and would opt for a bionic tongue as his superpower. Yuck.Bemusednoreply@blogger.com